{"id":2354,"date":"2010-06-29T12:13:11","date_gmt":"2010-06-29T19:13:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ourthoughts.ca\/?p=2354"},"modified":"2010-06-29T12:13:11","modified_gmt":"2010-06-29T19:13:11","slug":"i%e2%80%99m-20-and-i%e2%80%99m-worried-i%e2%80%99ll-never-get-married-help-at-mormon-matters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ourthoughts.ca\/2010\/06\/29\/i%e2%80%99m-20-and-i%e2%80%99m-worried-i%e2%80%99ll-never-get-married-help-at-mormon-matters\/","title":{"rendered":"I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m 20. And I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m worried I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll never get married. Help? at Mormon Matters"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Dear Ask Mormon Girl:<\/p>\n<p>I am sure I will never find a Mormon guy who will make me happy, to marry in the temple. I am 20 years old, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not out of time, but I have a lot of problems with church and marriage in general. I was told all my life to accept it as the truth with no questioning, and that if you do everything \u00e2\u20ac\u0153right\u00e2\u20ac\u009d then you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll be happy no matter what. I found that my parents never really were happy and when my dad came out of the closet, and my parents divorced, it proved me right, that doing what\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s \u00e2\u20ac\u0153right\u00e2\u20ac\u009d doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t make you \u00e2\u20ac\u0153happy.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d I feel pressure to date only guys who are Mormons even though a Mormon guy wouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t understand me very well. I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have a very good \u00e2\u20ac\u0153testimony\u00e2\u20ac\u009d of the church, but honestly I would still like to get married in the temple, to an upstanding guy. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m just not sure how to get there without denying my true feelings about men who think they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re \u00e2\u20ac\u0153over\u00e2\u20ac\u009d their wives, who expect their wives to fit the homemaker mold, and my feelings that marriage can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t work even, and especially, when founded on the teachings of the Mormon church.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/mormonmatters.org\/2010\/06\/28\/ask-mormon-girl-im-20-and-im-worried-ill-never-get-married-help\/\">Read the response at Mormon Matters<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Ask Mormon Girl: I am sure I will never find a Mormon guy who will make me happy, to &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ourthoughts.ca\/2010\/06\/29\/i%e2%80%99m-20-and-i%e2%80%99m-worried-i%e2%80%99ll-never-get-married-help-at-mormon-matters\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m 20. 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