{"id":2193,"date":"2009-12-16T14:15:04","date_gmt":"2009-12-16T21:15:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ourthoughts.ca\/?p=2193"},"modified":"2018-08-14T04:46:52","modified_gmt":"2018-08-14T11:46:52","slug":"can-i-lust-after-my-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ourthoughts.ca\/2009\/12\/16\/can-i-lust-after-my-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"Can I lust after my wife?"},"content":{"rendered":"

In Matt 5:28 and D&C 63:16, we read that if we look a woman to lust after her, we have committed adultery in principle, if not in deed.<\/p>\n

Now, I get the idea that if I look at a woman to lust after a woman who isn\u2019t my wife, it could potentially lead to thoughts or attraction, which itself could lead to more serious and complex issues.<\/p>\n

That being said, both passages do not say \u201clook on another <\/em>woman to lust after her\u201d. They specifically state \u201clook on a <\/em>woman to lust after her\u201d.<\/p>\n

Assuming this indefinite article is used on purpose, does that mean if I lust after my wife, that I commit adultery in my heart? Is this scripture more about respecting women and relationships than it is about warning against infidelity?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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