Comments on: Why porn is wrong

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Thu, 28 Nov 2013 00:21:51 +0000

In reply to Zac. Thanks, Zac.I appreciate your professional insight. As I said at the outset, all of this was my own opinion, but it’s nice to have it substantiated. :)

By: Zac

Zac — Thu, 28 Nov 2013 00:04:00 +0000

On point. As addiction therapist we call pornography addiction am intimacy disorder. It may help some couples spice things up but for the majority of couples I’ve seen it drives them apart. For example, rates of ED skyrocketed at the same time high speed internet became the norm.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 12:55:11 +0000

In reply to Klassy & Sassy. Thank you. :)

By: Klassy & Sassy

Klassy & Sassy — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:47:25 +0000

Excellent post – I followed your link from the fMh post and I completely agree with you. It adds a 3rd (or 4th, 5th, etc) person to your marriage that gives nothing and takes much. Very well written :)

By: Scabs

Scabs — Thu, 06 Sep 2012 06:58:09 +0000

you’re right. it doesn’t benefit anyone.

i spent many years trying to justify it’s existence in my life. But now i know better.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 23:56:37 +0000

In reply to jks. Thanks for these thoughts, jks. I agree strongly with you on the idea that porn represents falsehoods and it can be detrimental to our worldview.

By: jks

jks — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 15:50:38 +0000

I also agree. I have a son who is now past the average age of first viewing (I think age 11). I talk to him a lot about why porn is hurtful. I try to be very matter of fact about it. Since it is guaranteed he will run across it in his life, I want him to be able to react to in objectively and choose to not engage. Rather than have it be a secret sin, I talk to him about why a man’s body might be interested in it, but why it is practicing a “fake” relationship, rather than developing skills for a real relationship down the road.
It fits in well with the overall dangers of too much screen time. Why is too much video gaming bad? Working for hours and hours on acheiving levels in a game SEEMS like you are accomplishing something, but it doesn’t gain you anything real or anything that helps you attain real life goals. It is a fake life and can actually hurt your real life.
If you start with the end in mind: I want a happy, successful, healthy marriage and a happy, successful, healthy sex life within that, you can’t help but to choose away from porn because it will be teaching all the wrong things about sex and will train your brain in the wrong way about sex and can prevent joy in a real relationship.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 01:00:00 +0000

In reply to Leah Vanessa. Thanks, Leah.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 00:59:49 +0000

In reply to Mary. Thanks, Mary.

By: Leah Vanessa

Leah Vanessa — Tue, 28 Aug 2012 20:21:13 +0000

My thoughts exactly.