Comments on: Less emotional

By: ltbugaf

ltbugaf — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 22:30:16 +0000

I’m not sure I can equate actions such as taking a new spouse with being “more emotional” or “less emotional.” I think those acts are tied up with emotions in ways too complicated to quantify as just more or less.

By: Sam

Sam — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 16:42:24 +0000

I also think it’s different from situation to situation. Obviously, losing a spouse can be an incredibly difficult thing to deal with, and it can certainly change you for the rest of your life. Because of that, it’s hard to know how any individual, man or woman will react and cope.

By: Diep

Diep — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 09:51:03 +0000

I think that men are rather worse off than women after the death of a spouse.
Men are more likely to be dependent on women. Hence they face not only the problem of beeing alone but also the problem of standing on their own feet suddenly.
When one is used to handling their live alone, they’re more likely to overcome even such a bad incident.
But I agree with the other commentators: it differs from situation to situation…

By: Rebecca J

Rebecca J — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:48:35 +0000

What SilverRain said, only not tongue-in-cheek.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:39:47 +0000

I think it all depends on the individual.

My dad is dying right now. He has cancer. It’s really interesting to see the different want people in our family respond.

It’s not easy for anyone. I imagine that when my dad does die, it will be just as difficult as it would have been if it were a surprise.

By: SilverRain

SilverRain — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 21:42:59 +0000

Somewhat tongue-in-cheek, I don’t think it has to do with emotion. I think men get remarried more quickly because they realize how much their wife did for them. I think women get remarried less quickly for the same reason.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:13:12 +0000

I am not a big fan of comparing men and women. Both have important roles and each individual is unique. The variations across each gender are enormous. Men and women are different but share more common than they differ.

I think it would be a mistake to say men are less emotional. Men are full of emotions both good and bad. Even if some men do not show emotions that does not mean they are not there.

As for moving on quickly or slowly it is very complex. Quality of the relationship, agreements spouses may have had, financial situations, emotional conditions, opportunity, all may play more of a role than gender.