I was wondering what the general consensus is with everyone on which sex is more likely to move on after the death of a spouse? Do you think that men are less “emotional” and therefore are able to move on more quickly with life… starting to date quicker, get remarried faster etc regardless of age or do you think that women do? Do women think with their hearts more making them cling to the memories of their husband and not wanting to let go enough to move on and being with another husband?
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I am not a big fan of comparing men and women. Both have important roles and each individual is unique. The variations across each gender are enormous. Men and women are different but share more common than they differ.
I think it would be a mistake to say men are less emotional. Men are full of emotions both good and bad. Even if some men do not show emotions that does not mean they are not there.
As for moving on quickly or slowly it is very complex. Quality of the relationship, agreements spouses may have had, financial situations, emotional conditions, opportunity, all may play more of a role than gender.
Somewhat tongue-in-cheek, I don’t think it has to do with emotion. I think men get remarried more quickly because they realize how much their wife did for them. I think women get remarried less quickly for the same reason.
I think it all depends on the individual.
My dad is dying right now. He has cancer. It’s really interesting to see the different want people in our family respond.
It’s not easy for anyone. I imagine that when my dad does die, it will be just as difficult as it would have been if it were a surprise.
What SilverRain said, only not tongue-in-cheek.
I think that men are rather worse off than women after the death of a spouse.
Men are more likely to be dependent on women. Hence they face not only the problem of beeing alone but also the problem of standing on their own feet suddenly.
When one is used to handling their live alone, they’re more likely to overcome even such a bad incident.
But I agree with the other commentators: it differs from situation to situation…
I also think it’s different from situation to situation. Obviously, losing a spouse can be an incredibly difficult thing to deal with, and it can certainly change you for the rest of your life. Because of that, it’s hard to know how any individual, man or woman will react and cope.
I’m not sure I can equate actions such as taking a new spouse with being “more emotional” or “less emotional.” I think those acts are tied up with emotions in ways too complicated to quantify as just more or less.