Comments on: Hollywood and Cheating

By: daniel

daniel — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:57:06 +0000

Hey very nice blog!! I will bookmark your blog and take the feeds also...

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Mon, 05 Mar 2007 15:12:00 +0000

Katelyn

Thanks for visiting and I will check out your blog and thank you for your comments!

By: Katelyn Rasmus

Katelyn Rasmus — Mon, 05 Mar 2007 05:45:55 +0000

I am creating a similar blog to yours for my gender in media class. I think it is very interesting that you pointed this factor out and I never would have realized this even though it seems so obvious. It is definitely true that people always gawk over why a woman was cheated on and not why the man cheated on the woman. I mean you would never hear or see a person talking about how a man gets cheated on even if he is amazing looking.

I believe this relates to my blog because I think it very much adds to the portrayal of women in Hollywood. It makes it seem as though all there is to women is their looks. If it were about beauty then I think it would be obvious that no one would leave a gorgeous women. There evidently must be more to women than their appearance and Hollywood simply isn’t acknowledging this.

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 00:46:48 +0000

"While I think much of the problem comes from misplaced expectations in marriage, that doesnâ€t mean that the people in the marriage are incapable of working it out or of being faithful in tough times." I agree with this. One of the things that bothers me these days is the tendency people have to place the blame elsewhere, when they do things that are wrong, hurt other people, etc etc. It's time to take reponsibility for our own actions. And yes, marriages can be worked out. Infidelity doesn't automatically mean it is over, sometimes it can be a wake-up call. Not a very pleasant one, of course, but in the long run it can be a teaching tool.

By: John Anon

John Anon — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 23:40:49 +0000

Mary, I agree. To whatever degree we need to lay blame, it should be at the feet of the cheater, not the cheated. While I think much of the problem comes from misplaced expectations in marriage, that doesn’t mean that the people in the marriage are incapable of working it out or of being faithful in tough times.

By: George

George — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 23:27:35 +0000

There are several answers to this problem. Sometimes a person cheats because they feel unloved by the person who is supposed to love them the most and the need to be loved is very strong. Sometimes they cheat for the thrill and sometimes because they have low standards for themselves.

I meet this gal last week who belongs to the FLDS and she left the man she had babies with. Would she be cheating if he still thinks they are a couple even though he never married her in the eyes of the law?

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 21:56:19 +0000

“What if the Human Male is really the pretty one and the females are considered plain. Would that change things with cheating?”

Well some men are pretty, lol. But what I am saying is cheating doesn’t have anything to do with being pretty or not pretty, it has to do with other things, and someone who is considered an ideal beauty is no more likely to keep her man from cheatin’ than someone who isn’t considered so. Since it has very little, if anything to do with the non-faithful spouse, but rather the unfaithful spouse and his or her failings.

By: John Anon

John Anon — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:33:12 +0000

Right. I would think that would be the case. Because marriages that are only about sex fail. I am not saying that this is the case with your examples, I just mean that it is the intimacy that people actually want. When they don’t get it in their own marriage, they look for it elsewhere and, often, confuse sex for love again.

By: Bill

Bill — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:26:26 +0000

In the animal world, the male is considered the beauty and the female is not on the same level. For example, the Mallard Duck – the male is beautiful and the female is plain. I expect Male Mallard Ducks may think one female is prettier than the other but they all look the same to me.

What if the Human Male is really the pretty one and the females are considered plain. Would that change things with cheating?

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 19:58:31 +0000

Perhaps, but of the people who I know who had affairs, none of them ever did it because they thought the other person was pretty. It was because they felt attracted to them physically/emotionally.