Luckily, my husband agrees with me that being with the children (in whatever capacity) is much harder than working, and would never dare to act like my day hasn’t been just as exhausting as his, frequently more so, mentally. Anyway, long story short, we share almost all of the housekeeping duties. I keep the house from burning down during the day, and we clean it together (or not) in the evening.

I left for three days to attend a conference last week, leaving DH home alone with the kids. My husband was so extremely happy to see me when I arrived home from the airport – I’ve never felt so loved. I took a look at the exhaustion on his face and sent him off to our room for some time away from the kids.

Yeah, because it’s so hard for me to sleep an extra hour.

Yes I know you weren’t saying that. At first I thought so, and then I actually READ it properly, lol. I have a tendency to scan when reading online. But I still said the stuff I did, because there are people who think that way and well, you know. I am quite sure you will be a wonderful help with your baby.

I also wanted to add that Kim is such a wonderful help and he does so much here, I have nothing at all to complain about. The only thing he doesn’t do is nurse the baby, but that’s only because he can’t :) Otherwise he does literally everything. He supports me fully going to the gym each and every morning and if it wasn’t for him, I couldn’t. He cleans, he cooks (better than me) he irons (actually I don’t iron his clothes because he doens’t like how I do it). He does housework and I do housework, but he also does yard work and I DON’T do yardwork. My excuse is, he enjoys it and I don’t, lol. He is adored by all his children because he plays with them and does so much with them and they think he is the best. And they are right. He is wonderful with babies, his own and others! Mike if you ever want advice on being a new father, ask Kim all about it. He has been there literally, from the start (first one to touch them!) and from their births (well even before their births) he is always there. Anyway, I shoudl stop gushing and get supper started.

I didn’t say that mothers don’t do anything or that doing housework and raising children is easy. I admire mothers and acknowledge that stay-at-home moms have one of the most demanding jobs in the world.

I also didn’t say that husbands shouldn’t help out with the kids or the chores. A father would have to be incredibly lazy and insensitive to come home from work at 5 every day and demand that dinner be ready in time for Monday Night Football.

All I said was that it is probably unrealistic to expect housework and child raising to be split 50/50. A father can’t be expected to do half of the dishes, half of the laundry, half of the cooking, half of the diaper changing, etc while still at work 40 hours/week.

Kim made a good point that the house work SHOULD be split equally for all hours that BOTH parents are at home. I can agree with that.

My first child is due in 4 more days and I don’t expect my wife to do all of the work around here by herself. I plan on helping out as much as possible when I am home.

We weren’t talking about marriage, we were talking about housework, and it is impossible for two people to each do 100% of the housework. That being said, it’s a good thing you both put 100% into your marriage.

That’s right, it never ends does it?

Mum, oh no, I am not saying I am not worth it. There are just so many other things that need doing. lol Well, ok, but I do go to the gym and that is really me time, it truly is. :)