Comments on: Lust

By: ltbugaf

ltbugaf — Sun, 13 May 2007 03:23:10 +0000

I think what Christ was getting at here is that it's best to surpass the minimum requirement of not committing the physical act of adultery, and eliminate the adultery from our hearts---cleanse the inner vessels. When one looks on another with adulterous thoughts, then one is taking the first step towards that horrible sin. Is it better to have adulterous thoughts you don't act on than to commit adultery in fact? Yes, I think so. But that still leaves you as a kind of whited sepulchre---clean on the outside but filthy on the inside. Christ wants us clean all the way through, in our thoughts as well as our deeds.

By: rick

rick — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:38:27 +0000

So is it lust when I â€˜check outâ€ a statue? Is it lust when I tell my daughter how great she looks? This would be a biblic example of hyperbole, I believe.

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:35:38 +0000

What Kim said.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:27:20 +0000

Once? No. Twice? No. Beyond that? I cannot create a concrete limit on a hypothetical situation, but I assume there would probably be a point where I would give her an ultimatum, but that’s just speculation.

By: George

George — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:22:57 +0000

Would you leave your spouse if they cheated on you?

Once, twice, twenty times?

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:14:48 +0000

And so would I prefer to know. Our relationship is based on trust, not on lies and if my husband were to lie to me, especially to such a magnitude, I would want to know. It’s the only way healing can begin. You cannot base any relationship on lies. Otherwise it is no sort of relationship at all.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 22:03:02 +0000

Would I want to know if Mary cheated on me? Absolutely.

By: George

George — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 21:59:16 +0000

But why should a Bishop make it a condition of repentance? What if the other spouse would prefer not to know?

I know a Bishop who told the injured spouse that they had to forgive the spouse or the Bishop would exe him/her for not following the Bishops command. A divorce would trigger a court action.

Would you really want to go through all the pain if your spouse cheated on you and it was a one time thing that would not happen again?

I’m pretty sure I would prefer not to know.

By: JM

JM — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 19:03:11 +0000

The way I see it:

1) it’s a question of lust

2) it’s a question of trust

3) it’s a question of not letting what you’ve built up crumble to dust

In fact, it is all of these things and more…

By: rick

rick — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 16:42:54 +0000

Assuming the couple is going to be together forever, and that in an exalted state a person has perfect knowledge, the affair is going to be discovered anyway.

So ya might as well fess up now, no?

“But why hurt the other person?”

It’s not about hurting the person, it’s about beginning the healing process. It’s the release from the anxiety of having to keep a secret that is taking place here, not an exerted effort to injure one’s spouse.