The quote by Oaks is true. He, as a general authority, teaches general principles and sometimes exceptions apply to particular individuals. Yes, determining that you might be an exception to a rule is difficult and I suppose requires tremendous humility.

I should also mention that the current church handbook of instructions states that participating in a gender reassignment operation is generally grounds for excommunication but that specific questions should be forwarded to the First Presidency. That may or may not be the exact wording but it is at least less strict than the prior version of the handbook was. And I have some knowledge of at least one such case being forwarded to the First Presidency and approved but I am trying to confirm that this actually took place.

It is true that our spirits are either male or female and that in the vast majority of cases a male spirit will inhabit a male body in mortality and a female spirit will inhabit a female body in mortality. It is also true that the few remaining exceptions will be corrected in the resurrection. It is also true that a male cannot be sealed as husband to another male in eternity nor can a female be sealed to another female as a wife in eternity, nor could a union between male and male or between female and female produce spirit offspring in the resurrection.

For myself, I have struggled with a gender identity disorder for as long as I can remember. I’ve never had a test done to determine if I have an XXY situation but I would certainly be interested in finding out. I guess it’s partly a money issue and partly fear of asking for the test to be done only to get the results and find out nothing is abnormal with my chromosomes, in which case the whole thing would’ve just been a waste of time. I also don’t know what I would do if I found out I had XXY chromosomes. I am a worthy (not perfect), and frequently attending, temple recommend holder. I do not in any way identify with the so-called “gay movement” or advocate any actions contrary to the teachings of the restored gospel. My struggle is my own and does not harm my testimony. I do not know why I even have this struggle or why it’s so persistent over such a long period of time. I’ve accepted that I at least appear male and try my best to fill that role but it rarely feels right to me.

Bookslinger, for #34.

K.

Is it cruelty or just speaking the truth God has given him?

I think I know what your answer will be, but on what are you basing it?

Bookslinger, Yes, you’re absolutly correct. My piont is it is cruel to tell such an individual who feels they are such an exception that their feelings are misguided when we don’t live in thier skin and can’t possibly know what they’re going through.