Comments on: Returned Missionaries

By: Nikki Workman

Nikki Workman — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Kim…Are you channeling my husband? It’s like his thoughts…word for word. Especially the part about not wanting to marry a returned missionary. But that’s a whole ‘nother post…

If returned missionaries are “prizes for faith young women” the good part is they usually come with a free set of knives (or three or four if our wedding gifts were any indication).

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Seriously Kim? The last thing you wanted was to marry a returned missionary?
So you could marry anyone in the world and the last 3 on your list would be…
deranged lunatic murderer, psychopath child molester, and LDS returned missionary?

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Well, maybe the order would be different for the molester and the murderer.

By: Sally

Sally — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

good thing MAry never went on a mission!

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

lol, I know. And he even said if I went on a mission he wouldn’t have even DATED me!!! Though I said I would STILL be the same person.

By: Mary Siever

Mary Siever — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Oh but we will go on a mission or missions when we are older. That’s ok, I guess.

By: Sue

Sue — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Hee hee, my husband went to BYU for a semester before his mission and girls would not even talk to him because he wasn’t an RM. He said it was “absolutely demoralizing.” (snerk)

By: Susan M

Susan M — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I married a future missionary.

By: ltbugaf

ltbugaf — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I think you’re making a mistake by equating a mother’s pleasure that her daughter has married a returned missionary with believing that returned missionaries are nothing but prizes. The fact that the daughter’s husband had served a mission is an indication to this mother that he is faithful in the gospel and both holds and honors the priesthood. Of course those traits are not universal among returned missionaries, but the fact of having served a mission is an indicator of their likelihood. So why shouldn’t mom be proud and happy for her daughter in having found and chosen a man who she (the mother) believes is likelier to be a good husband and father based on this trait (the mission)? If mom said, “And she married a kind and generous man,” would you conclude that the kind and generous have been transformed into mere prizes for lucky brides? Of course that conclusion would be unwarranted. It’s unwarranted with regard to returned missionaries, too.

By: Kim Siever

Kim Siever — Tue, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

"If mom said, "And she married a kind and generous man," would you conclude that the kind and generous have been transformed into mere prizes for lucky brides?"

But that's just it. Mothers don't say that; even if their sons-in-law are kind and generous. Kind and generous aren't what is important; being a returned missionary is. They don't care whether he is a hard worker or not, whether he is charitable or not, whether he is a good provider or not, whether he has career plans or not. Or maybe they do, but they never say it. All that seems to matter is that he's a returned missionary.