i do wonder if this has changed, but if it has it is truly sad.

as far as why guys aren’t dating, this much i can tell you because i too married older, and i have many male and female friends who are still not married and are in their 30’s, and not dating.

there are a few things going on, one is just that it is more appealing to get married older in life and be able to experience school, travel, ect… it is better for many reasons, the most obvious is that you may actually be able to afford to live as a married couple if you aren’t married right out of high school.

the other thing i can see going on is that men don’t have to ask girls out anymore. a lot of people just hang out, and end up in relationships. a lot of girls will ask out the boys instead. it’s laziness.

and then there are those who just aren’t there socially. i hate to say it about my male friends, but they aren’t getting dates, and won’t be able to get married because of their personalities and the veiws they have about relationships. where did they learn it? who knows. but they are very self centered, and that just doesn’t work in a relationship. and as for the female friends, it goes back to my male friends… they like to date young girls, not those their own age.

anyway, maybe it’s time for a “menimist” movement.

that is why i think men don’t always try to do much, what would be the point if they know that they are just going to be put down in someway regardless. for instance, dating or not dating. i hear girls complain that men don’t ask out, and i hear them complain about guys that ask out everyone… it seems to be a lose lose situation.

so come on men, start the menimist movement and prove to us ladies that we have been wrong all this time afterall. :)

Maybe the answers lie in our expectations. OUr expectations of ourselves and each other need to rise.

Whats even more shocking (if thats possible) is when a mother runs off with her child – leaving behind a father that desperatly wants to be a part of his childs life. When this happened to my DH with his ex wife (squishy is with us finally after 6 years of searching!) and his daughter was just 3 months old, he was treated by the police and the courts like a man who wanted his daughter for, shall we say, “unnatural reasons”.

There was no assistance offered to him to find his child because, as they said “she is with her mother” – assuming that the mom is a good, healthy and non abusive parent which she was not. We finally found her ourselves and were only able to get her listed on Child Find and Missing and Exploited Children AFTER we had found her.

All because he was a man… if it was the other way around you can be sure that the police would have been on the case right away.

It saddens and angers me to no end.

Ask Ann Cools, who is a senator. She used to be a strong women’s libber until the facts got in her way.
The fact is that women verbally and physically abuse children to a greater degree than men do.
Women are just as likely as men to resort to violence, though the statistics and studies show that men don’t report it.
The only area where women may be behind men is in the sexual abuse arena, and the stats are starting to move on that one too.
Ultimately we have to acknowledge that these problems are not gender specific.
Our sons and grandsons are going to pay a heavy price because of the labels we have burdened them with. As a consequence, so will our daughters and granddaughters.

This is a propoganda campaign that we have all bought into. Yes, there are a category of men that fall into the most abysmal form of humanity. If the law allowed men to do what men can do best, there would be fewer of these perverts harming our children.
As it is, those who like to demean men are the same ones that refuse to allow us to deal with it effectively.

Think about it.

When you say, “if the law allowed men to do what men can do best, there would be fewer of these perverts harming our children.”

So you are advocating vigilante justice? For someone who thinks men are so persecuted, it is bizarre to me that you think hurting people is “what men can do best.”

While we can find counter-examples of female sex offenders, let’s face reality. Sex abuse is an overwhelmingly male disease. I don’t see what is accomplished by pretending otherwise.

I appreciate that the comment to let men do what they do best is a liitle over the top, but I remember my grandfather telling me the story of a man who was abusing his family; a few neighbours got together and took him out behind the woodshed and gave him a whoopin’ that rivaled what he did to his children. Never had a problem again.
The real problem is that we catch and release these abusers and put them right back into our communities. If our civilized system isn’t going to handle this appropriately, then perhaps some form of vigilantism is appropriate.
After all, if mothers find them in their community they immediately try to get them moved. Isn’t that a form of vigilantism?